Yesterday I was surounded by hate and annoyance. Everywhere I turned it looked me in the face. Whether it was racists ranting about a statue, people pooping on my sexuality or gender identity and even people hating on my spectacular spectacles. This is an entry dedicated to how I dealt with this stuff, how you should deal with this stuff and why this stuff just needs to end.
My day started rather controversially I saw a trending hashtag about the death penalty so I decided to make my view clear. Usually when it comes to things I know for sure will be controversial I won’t discuss them this is why I’ve never mentioned my stance on drugs or abortion. These are subjects feel really strongly about and though I know the majority will agree with my views which like always are progressive (that should give you a hint as to where I stand) I don’t feel ready to discuss such subject matter just yet. I decided however that today I would step out of my comfort zone and share my opinion on capital punishment. I am strongly against the death penalty. I understand why so many people are for it. I can understand why you would feel by ridding the world of someone it would be better or even safer for you and that there is justice in that. I don’t believe your opinion is wrong but for me personally I could never justify taking a life for a life. Even if someone killed one of my loved ones or hurt me so much I wanted to die. I don’t think I could justify having the criminal killed, murder is a crime and no one should have the right or power to have control over life and death especially not the government my belief is life in prison should mean life in prison. Thankfully I’ve never had to face such a situation and it would be naive of me to say my opinion might not change if I was in a situation like that but for now I am against it and that’s the stance I’m sticking with.
After that I noticed a story about a statue in Bristol that was torn down by Black Lives Matter activists and replaced by the statue of a protester. In the comments section I saw one person mention how the statue goes against their opinions so it should be torn down to which I replied along the lines of if your opinion is against black lives your views are what needs to be pulled down. Obviously I got a lot of likes from that around 300 as I type this. I also got quite a bit of backlash from people claiming BLM is a terrorist organisation, it’s racist against white people, it’s black supremacy etc. I told each person individually that BLM is a movement dedicated to allowing Black People the freedom to live in peace without having to worry about being killed for the colour of their skin. A prejudice that has stuck around for centuries. They retorted with things such as Black people kill more white people. Something which is statistically unviable. After I told them the facts they started their personal attacks against me. Saying things such as I’m a sodomite, they will pray for me, I’m a pedophile because I’m an adult man who uses a dummy. To the sodomite comment I told them to google asexuality and they stopped replying. To the praying for me I asked to which god they would pray to which they replied there’s only one god. I reminded them that there are many belief systems with many gods and so to pray to them if they really wanted to pray for me since I’m an Omnist and believe all religions hold truth. I mean if they’re going to pray for me they might as well pray coinciding with what I believe. If you believe there’s only one god that’s completely fine I support your beliefs. You aren’t wrong there is no proof that there isn’t a god. I just ask that you respect my beliefs as well. I certainly don’t need praying for though. He continued to attack me for using a dummy worrying about my teeth being damaged. My teeth are perfectly healthy and dummies don’t do anything to damage them since they’re already developed. The worst I get is a little jaw ache. A lot of people called me Jay. I told them that only my friends can call me Jay (if you’re reading this you’re allowed to call me Jay) and that anyone else should call me by my full name JayJay out of respect. Of course they just called me Jay anyway, go figure. My sister upon seeing the hate I was getting stepped in and told them what was what. I appreciate her doing that for me but unfortunately it got her banned for a day. I was also called a grown man. I want to make this clear I am not a man. I never have been. You can refer to me by any pronouns He/They/She but I’m not a man. The idea of being a man just doesn’t resonate with me. I identify as Non-Binary or Agender is the preferred term I use. I don’t believe in the concept of gender I never have so I don’t want to force myself into a gender conforming box. That’s why I’m happy for you to use any pronouns you like for me I don’t mind but I just would prefer not being called a man because I don’t know with he it could be anything within the spectrum of masculinity but Man is just to me too conforming for my taste. Anyway I came to the conclusion that people who know deep down that they’re wrong will insult people to cement their voice. Stay calm. Don’t stoop to their level if you know you’re right then you have nothing to worry about. People who attack people are just worried about what they believe.
The racism stuff went on for hours so I eventually blocked everyone and moved on. Only to be added to a Facebook group saying they hate people with glasses. This is a ridiculous thing to hate. People don’t choose to have eye problems. I didn’t choose to be long sighted. I may be long sighted but I can see hate when it’s in my face. I told everyone else added to that group that I loved them all and that what the administrator of the group said didn’t matter as his opinion is nothing beyond ridiculous. Hate is disgusting, it comes in many forms it could be something like judging someone by their skin colour, disrespecting someone’s gender identity or hating people with disabilities. It’s disgusting and it needs to end. We can all have different opinions and still be friends unless your views hurt groups of people. I can’t support that. If you get into a debate stay calm. Know what you’re talking about. Google the facts, read several articles, stay informed don’t stoop to level of picking on the person’s appearance or attitude. If they try that on you ask them why they feel like it’s warranted they most likely won’t know how to respond but they’ll say anything to cement their beliefs. Only give them facts. Talk to them as people, calmly and as to the point as you can. If they attack they only make themselves look bad. The end goal is that they change their opinion but during the debate aim to make them think about what they believe. If they realise that they might be wrong then that’s one step closer to the light. You can’t change someone’s opinion in one conversation. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Make them look into what they don’t know so they educate themselves. And yes you should talk to them and call them out ignoring them just cements their view that they’re right. If someone isn’t on the right side of history they need to be informed of why. Don’t fight hate with hate fight hate with knowledge.
That was a lot to unpack from just yesterday I hope it made sense. You can find me on Twitter @66JayJay99. Respect people’s pronouns even if they’re your enemy. Don’t fight hate with hate fight it with knowledge. Don’t be afraid to teach people what’s right and wrong and just don’t be hateful. I love you all ~ JayJay